High on the bestseller lists this week is a book called The Rules, a guide to dating and courting for women which effectively advocates that women, in order to snag a man, follow a sexist and manipulative dating game based on the principles of 50 years ago.
(Except that back then, the guys knew the women were playing this game and accounted for it.) What follows, in the same vein is a satire, The Rules for Guys.
He shares all his worldly goods 50-50 with you, is incredibly thoughtful and low-maintenance and allows you to do nothing for the rest of your life but maintain your hair.
though there is no body of evidence to support this.
Another criticism is that because The Rules advise rarely returning phone calls and other such hard-to-get dating methods, some men may have trouble telling the difference between a woman who is genuinely not interested (or not interested anymore) and one who is genuinely interested, thus leading to misunderstandings and stalkers; not only for women using The Rules, but any man who believes all women are playing similar games even when they are not.
But the fact that they still give you some kind of encouraging signal suggests that you are the one they want to get “caught” by.
But if you find yourself in the situation of not knowing whether they will even answer your calls, then the chances are, you are not their type.